Of course, some forms of codependence or necessary for survival such as an infant being (co)dependent on their caregivers.  That’s not what we are talking about here.  Here are some signs that codependency may be problematic for you:

• Difficulty making decisions

• Difficulty identifying your feelings

• Problems communicating in any kind of relationship

• Seeking and valuing the approval and validation of others to know you are enough

• No trust in yourself 

• Low self esteem

• Fears of abandonment leading to obsessive need for approval

• A dependence on romantic relationships even when they are detrimental to you

• Thinking you are responsible for others

• Attracted to relationships with people in active addiction (and finding yourself in addiction)

These are just a few of the signs and codependency can really show up in very subtle ways - recovery from codependency can be incredibly freeing and of course takes a willingness to do the work at a pace you are comfortable with.