depression
depression can creep up, arrive suddenly or be triggered by an external event
Sometimes it builds slowly, almost invisibly — until one day we realise we no longer feel like ourselves. Other times it comes in the wake of a specific event: a relationship rupture, financial pressure, the loss of a loved one, or changes in health, work, or identity.
While a difficult emotional response to life’s challenges is human and expected, there are times when the heaviness feels disproportionate — or as though it won’t lift.
Common Experiences of Depression
Persistent low mood or hopelessness
Difficulty falling or staying asleep
Irritability, restlessness, or agitation
A sense of emptiness, loneliness, or mokemoke
Changes in appetite — loss or binge eating
Numbing out with alcohol, substances, or distractions
Feeling like everything is an effort — like wading through treacle
Loss of interest or pleasure in things you used to enjoy
Struggles with focus, memory, or motivation
Self-criticism or guilt
Thoughts of self-harm, suicide, or not wanting to exist
Changes in sexual desire or connection
You don’t need to tick every box to be struggling. And depression doesn’t always look like sadness — it can appear as flatness, irritability, withdrawal, or quiet despair.
What’s Beneath the Surface
Sometimes depression is a response to overwhelming life events. Other times, it can be a long-held pattern — a way the nervous system has adapted to protect us in the face of unresolved trauma or early emotional neglect.
It’s not a sign of weakness. Often, it’s a sign of how much you’ve been carrying.
Support That Meets You Where You Are
For some, medication offers essential support. For others, therapy is the place where healing begins. Often, a combination of approaches works best.
In therapy, we won’t rush to fix or label — instead, we’ll take the time to understand what your depression might be asking for. Together, we can explore how to reconnect with what matters, and how to move toward a life that feels more alive.
If you’d like to talk, I offer a free 20-minute consultation.